How to Get Out of a Funk

Sometimes, shit hits the fan.

And when it does, you want to throw anyone who says “cheer up” off a cliff.

If you’ve every been there, here’s a video I made that will help you navigate this.

When I was 22, I was dating a girl who had the kind of looks that causes accidents on the road. 

She was way out of my league.

When it came time to move to LA for grad school, my insecurities overwhelmed both of us, and she broke up with me.

I felt like my dog died.

That first semester, I was playing violin in the Honors String quartet.  It was the only thing that took my mind off the pain of losing her.

A week before our recital, I developed tendinitis, and had to leave my quartet hanging without a violinist.

I barely ate, I was miserable to be around, and I thought the heartache would never go away.

To make matters worse, I was learning all about the law of attraction, and I knew that this funk was only bringing more things to feel funky about.

When you’re in a hole, it can be hard to see the light.

Here’s what got me out of it.

1. I started DOING stuff.  

I felt like complete dog shit.  But I intuitively knew that I had to do SOMETHING that I enjoyed to start to turn the ship around.

So I started practicing violin again using only my bow arm. 

I focused on creating a beautiful sound, ironing out my technique, and exploring new dynamics.

2. I realized that circumstances are neutral - meaning, I get to decide if they are “positive” or “negative”.  

Almost 20 years later, I know two things.  

1. My violin playing improved more when I “couldn’t play”, than when I was.

2. The girl I was obsessed with was NOT the right girl for me.  And if she hadn't broken up with me, I never would have met Raquel.

So, the crazy thing is… that In hindsight, these are two of the best things that ever happened to me!

And that’s the point:

You get to choose what things mean to you.

Let’s say your life is like a country western song right now.

Your dog died, your husband left you, and your kids root for the Dodgers (I’m a Padres fan).

All of those circumstances are neutral.  (I mean, there are actually people that like the Dodgers, afterall)!

Joking aside, nobody wants their dog to die.  But it COULD mean that you have an even deeper level of gratitude for your time together.

It COULD mean that you explore the possibility that nothing ever really dies. 

(Everything is energy, and energy can’t be created or destroyed).

It COULD mean that you decide to start a business around cherishing dogs that earns millions of dollars every year.

And none of those possibilities would have found you had you not experienced the “loss” of your pup.

If you’re down in the dumps, ask yourself this question…

What can I learn here that wouldn’t have been possible if this situation didn’t crop up?

IN other words, what’s the POSITIVE meaning behind this?

When you ask yourself that question, and you get silent, you activate a part of your brain that must answer the question.

The moment you begin to answer that question, you have transformed your state of being.  

And you know what’s amazing about that?

In that moment, you are creating an entirely new energy… which will lead to an entirely new future.

Because, here’s the deal:

You are ALWAYS attracting a new future

You are ALWAYS “manifesting” something new.

You just might have beliefs that say: 

“It’s hard to change.”  

“Things are hard.”

“The Dodgers always win everything, it’s not fair.” (I’m still working on this one lol.)

See what I mean?

Now, let me give you a formula to get out of a funk.  And I promise you that IF YOU FOLLOW THIS, you will only attract what you need into your life in order to become the best version of yourself.

1. Act on your highest passion - Of all the things you could do, choose the one that most excites you.

IT doesn’t have to be some grand purpose or anything crazy.  It could literally be getting a sip of water, taking a nap, painting, calling a friend, watching a movie.  

It could be anything.

But choose the thing that most excites you.

2. Do it as well as you possibly can.  

If that means watching the paint dry… then really tune in to that lime green as it goes from wet to dry. You might want to pair it with some elevator music to really take it up a notch.

3. Take it as far as you can, until you can’t take it any further.

If you’re reading a book, and you get bored… or your eyes get tired, or it’s obvious it’s time to move on… then stop. And get ready to do the next thing that excites you.

4. Do it with no expectations

You’re not doing this thing because it’s going ot make you smarter… or because you’re gonna go to heaven… or because your neighbor is going to make you a lasagna in exchange.

You’re doing it JUST BECAUSE YOU LOVE TO DO IT.

You’re doing it with unconditional love.

Zero conditions.

Zero expectations.

Zero assumptions as to what the outcome “should” be.

5. Stay in a positive state no matter what happens.

As we talked about earlier… circumstances are neutral.  So you might as well find the positive meaning behind everything.

THis formula, which I learned from Bashar, is a complete kit.  It leaves nothing out.  It will bring you everything you need in order to attract, through synchronicities, more an dmore things to be excikted about.

It’s the organizing principle behind everything in your reality.

So give it a go… and let me know how it’s going for you.

Love you.

Talk soon,

Ramon

P.S. Here’s the video if you’d like to watch it!