What I got wrong about Dispenza

Author

Ramon O
July 18, 2026

Hey, it's Ramon

Six years ago you would've found me on the floor of a two-bedroom apartment, headphones on, doing Dr. Joe Dispenza's meditation… face turning purple.

I'm not exaggerating about the purple.

See, I'm an athlete. So when Dr. Joe said to follow the breath up the spine and squeeze… I squeezed. I attacked that breath like it was the last rep of a max deadlift. Because more effort means more results, right?

And I'd sit there waiting for the fireworks. The energy shooting up my spine. The "pop." I'd heard people talk about seeing blue beings, for crying out loud… so every morning some part of me was peeking around going, "is it happening yet?"

It wasn't happening yet.

And then I'd feel that little sink of disappointment about two minutes in… and do the next fifty-eight minutes of my meditation from that. From lack. From "this isn't working for me."

I did that for years.

Here's what I finally understood — and it took me embarrassingly long:

There's no such thing as a wrong meditation. Every single one of those mornings was working perfectly. It was showing me exactly where my awareness was. I just couldn't see it yet.

The breath wasn't a deadlift. It was an invitation. It was a skill — one I was clumsy at, the same way I was clumsy the first time I picked up a tennis racket. And nobody told me that, so I just assumed I was broken.

I wasn't broken. My body just hadn't gotten the memo that it was safe.

That's the whole thing, really. You can't force gratitude on top of a body that's bracing. You can't out-affirm a nervous system that's still in survival. The elevated emotion everyone talks about? It doesn't get squeezed out of you. It shows up on its own… once the guarding stops.

So I made a video about it. Seven things I did wrong — well, "wrong" — for three years with these meditations. And the seventh one is the one running underneath all the others.

If you've been doing this work for years and it's still not landing the way it lands for everyone in the testimonials… I really think this one's going to land for you.

And if you want the most direct place to start — I made a free 5-minute nervous system reset. It's the thing I wish I'd had six years ago. It gets your body out of survival so the rest of the work actually has somewhere to live.

Rooting for you.

Talk soon,
Ramon

P.S. I still drop little voice notes like this most mornings inside our free WhatsApp community. If you want to come hang out, we're right here: https://chat.whatsapp.com/JNutnuN2YrM0xFXWy3pnAS